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I know if you’re a typical guy, the last thing you’re thinking about is romance. Believe me. I know where you’re coming from. I get that. Although I am in a steady relationship, I know exactly where you’re coming from because that’s where I came from too.
Most guys are in the exact same boat you are. Most guys just basically want to fuck. I get that.
The reason why I wrote this blog post is that sometimes you hook up with the most amazing woman and you don’t want it to end. In fact, you don’t want the relationship to remain purely physical or sexual. You want to take it to the next level.
I don’t care how tough and how desensitized you think you are. All guys have a sensitive heart. There’s always a part of us that is looking for love. Some people call that a soft spot. Other people call it a weak spot. But regardless of how much armor you have on the outside, there is always a weak center.
So if you do find yourself going through adult hookup and then eventually finding somebody you want to have a relationship with, pay attention to the following tips. You can engineer your online dating game in such a way that in the event you find somebody you want to have a deeper relationship with, you’ve already set things up the right way. You’ve already set things up in such a way that you can turn this hook up or booty call into a real romance.
Set the Tone Early
It’s very important that you set the right tone early. What tone is this? Be friendly.
Basically, you have to understand that a lot of online hook ups focus primarily on fucking. In fact, a lot of couples don’t even go to the hotel. They just fuck right in the car. It’s very primal, it’s very carnal, and it’s just raw animal-like sex.
Well, if you change the tone at first by focusing on a friendly tone, then this opens the way to that hook up turning into a real romance further down the road.
Always Be Friends
The key here is to keep the hook up friendly and develop a friendship. Feel free to joke around. Feel free to share light moments. The key here is to open that person up and truly be comfortable around you.
Considering the fact that most people feel lonely and most people feel that the world is some sort of hostile place that they’d only have much control over, if you are very friendly, you go a long way. At least, you stand out from the crowd, and the women you meet for hook ups will eventually start looking at you from a different angle. This can open up real romantic possibilities.
Have the Right Expectations
This is crucial. Even if you try to set the tone early on and you try to be really friendly, in many cases, all that effort is basically just wasted. Regardless of how hard you try, the woman just wants to have sex and she just leaves it at that. In many cases, she just forgets your name right after you have sex.
Expect that. Be ready for that possibility. This way, you will never get hurt. The key here is to always protect yourself. I’m not just talking about strapping on a condom, but you also have to protect your emotions. By having the right expectations, it’s very hard to get hurt.